Visting parents - God thinks otherwise
Published by Mysorean on Wednesday, September 21, 2005 at 3:00:00 am.
Hyderabad is where my parents stay. I work out of Chennai. Though not a home-sick kind of guy but still like going home. I feel there's a certain duty that I owe towards my parents. And these duties we can carry out only on being with them.
Once during a discussion with my close friend - Iti - we agreed that there were so many things that our parents depend on us for. But most of the time, we were away [atleast Iti and I were away from our parents while studying and working] from them pursuing what we called the 'career' aspects. And in fact, they [our parents] wanted us to succeed in them. And once we got into the 'career' mode that was it, we went on with our lives as if it was now absolutely independent from the whole world. Yeah, we keep talking about how "teamwork" is important at workplace and how we should life our teammates when they are down or help them out in case they had some issues. Somewhere down the line, we slowly pushed our parents and family to the background. They are always there.
In fact, when my dad bought his first car - a second hand blue Maruti 800, I was so excited. At that time I was with my parents [doing my intermediate] and it was really a happy issue for me. Not that I did something great on the car's arrival. It was just that I was there. After that, we moved through a new white maruti 800 - to - a silver maruti Zen - to - a Hyundai Accent. I never even knew the day when these cars were being purchased. [Yeah, I know the mistake here is mine and throughout this article I continue to admit that the mistake is mine]. I missed sharing the joy of my parents on getting the new cars. I wasn't there.
My brother on the other hand has always had the great fortune of being with our parents throughout. Though he feels he would have done better if he had moved away for his undergraduation [Like me], I think he has a long way to go. During which he can actually go through everything he wants.
Iti says, "There are so many things that our parents want us to do for them. But they don't generally say it out because they feel we might not like it. But as you start living with them, you realise that there are so many small things that you do which give them immense happiness. These things you cannot do if you are away from them". Typical of Iti to put the most sensible of things in the most simple of ways!
I have been wanting to go to Hyderabad for the past couple of months now. And something or the other keeps coming in my way. This time I have planned to make it there for the weekend of 24th & 25th. And with heavy rains lashing the state of AP, many trains have been cancelled [including Charminar express]. And my dad also says, that it's better I stay put at Chennai. And he was the one who was asking me if I would be coming home this weekend or not during every phone call.
God has his own ways of dealing with things. I find myself too small-minded to accept his ways. And I can never be big enough to refuse them. If he just wanted me not to go to Hyderabad he could have done something else. What's the use of troubling so many people all over the state for it? I protest. And God, you better listen. Enough is enough. Among many other things, You flooded mumbai, hit New Orleans with a hurricane, now again inundating Andhra. What's your anger against?
Once during a discussion with my close friend - Iti - we agreed that there were so many things that our parents depend on us for. But most of the time, we were away [atleast Iti and I were away from our parents while studying and working] from them pursuing what we called the 'career' aspects. And in fact, they [our parents] wanted us to succeed in them. And once we got into the 'career' mode that was it, we went on with our lives as if it was now absolutely independent from the whole world. Yeah, we keep talking about how "teamwork" is important at workplace and how we should life our teammates when they are down or help them out in case they had some issues. Somewhere down the line, we slowly pushed our parents and family to the background. They are always there.
In fact, when my dad bought his first car - a second hand blue Maruti 800, I was so excited. At that time I was with my parents [doing my intermediate] and it was really a happy issue for me. Not that I did something great on the car's arrival. It was just that I was there. After that, we moved through a new white maruti 800 - to - a silver maruti Zen - to - a Hyundai Accent. I never even knew the day when these cars were being purchased. [Yeah, I know the mistake here is mine and throughout this article I continue to admit that the mistake is mine]. I missed sharing the joy of my parents on getting the new cars. I wasn't there.
My brother on the other hand has always had the great fortune of being with our parents throughout. Though he feels he would have done better if he had moved away for his undergraduation [Like me], I think he has a long way to go. During which he can actually go through everything he wants.
Iti says, "There are so many things that our parents want us to do for them. But they don't generally say it out because they feel we might not like it. But as you start living with them, you realise that there are so many small things that you do which give them immense happiness. These things you cannot do if you are away from them". Typical of Iti to put the most sensible of things in the most simple of ways!
I have been wanting to go to Hyderabad for the past couple of months now. And something or the other keeps coming in my way. This time I have planned to make it there for the weekend of 24th & 25th. And with heavy rains lashing the state of AP, many trains have been cancelled [including Charminar express]. And my dad also says, that it's better I stay put at Chennai. And he was the one who was asking me if I would be coming home this weekend or not during every phone call.
God has his own ways of dealing with things. I find myself too small-minded to accept his ways. And I can never be big enough to refuse them. If he just wanted me not to go to Hyderabad he could have done something else. What's the use of troubling so many people all over the state for it? I protest. And God, you better listen. Enough is enough. Among many other things, You flooded mumbai, hit New Orleans with a hurricane, now again inundating Andhra. What's your anger against?
